Blog Post: The Job Search and how to deal with the Uncertainty.

The above statements come from my years of working with people that are unemployed.

Human beings, when they feel they are threatened, get to a point where the “fight or flight” response kicks in. Especially when lack of finances get to be an issue. This is why some people become so angry when looking for a job. They are in the “fight” mode.

Acceptance and non-resistance. A great spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle (A New Earth and The Power of Now) speaks of the concepts of acceptance and non-resistance. When people are out of work the tendency is to, at first, be in denial, then anger, then acceptance. A person will not be successful in a job search until the acceptance point has been reached. {Note:Acceptance does not cause “non action” to occur}

The human being has a tendency to be unconscious. The way unconsciousness manifests itself is by spending mental and emotional energy thinking about and regretting the past or worrying about the future. By doing this we are taken out of the “NOW”. We are taken out of the “is ness” of the moment. The present moment seems too painful. In fact, the comment may be, “I don’t like how this feels”, “being unemployed”. The reason for this pain is manifold. One main reason is humans identify with things. We become our job. We become the role we have lost. So it feels like we have lost ourselves. The truth is we are NOT our jobs. We are much more then that. In fact being unemployed can be an opportunity to “find ourselves” or, it can just be painful.

So unemployment can be an opportunity to face and learn from “OUR HUMAN CONDITION”. The more we fight or resist our unemployment the longer it will take, or more painful it will be, to find a position. The more we resist and allow the negative thoughts and emotions that often come with unemployment to rule us the longer it will take to find a job.

So prior to starting a search allow yourself to have your negative thoughts and feeling. Do not make them wrong but try to look at yourself as a disinterested “third party”. I see anger in myself. I see resentment in myself. I see fear in myself. I see uncertainty in myself. I see doubt in myself. Acknowledge the thoughts and feeling, do not make them wrong. (Let yourself be in the now.)

Do not resist them. And remember the phrase “this too will pass”.

We are on this planet to OVERCOME AND TRANSEND our human condition and our circumstances.

We are not here to be victims. We are here to be of service and to be creators. When I work with people one on one to support them in their job search, it is not I that gets them the job. I may be the source of the job openings or they may be the source of the job openings. Where the job comes from does not matter. But ultimately they create the position coming into there lives and the biggest thing I can do is help them become the creators they are.

A good resume, a strategic job search plan, interview skill practice, how to analyze your strengths and communicate them. How to interview the interviewer. These are all important skills I teach. But the number one element to work on is ATTITUDE, having the right consciousness. When this is right miracles happen. It really is not about the ECONOMY. You can do nothing about the economy. But you can do a lot about your viewpoint towards yourself and your situation.

You are here to OVERCOME and TRANSEND the job market, (and your human condition), not be a victim to it.

Steve Gehrke

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